Divorce’s Psychological Effects on Children

Mac Huisken

To this generation, separated parents sadly isn’t uncommon. According to the CDC (Center of Disease Control) in their National Center for Health Statistics, in 44 reporting states and DC the number of divorces is roughly 827,261. “Young love” marriages are more likely to end in divorce due to poor future planning. Older generations are the leading causes for high divorce rates rather than millennials nowadays. Divorce rates for those 25 to 39 years of age has dropped from 30 persons per 1,000 married people in 1990 to 24 in 2015.  According to a Pew Research Analysis, this decline is greatly influenced by younger generations waiting for marriage until they are older.

Having divorced parents is a large struggle for some children, especially when the child is old enough to comprehend the weight of the situation. Those with parents still together think that having divorced parents could be a great thing because one would get two of everything, like birthdays, christmas’s and other gift filled events. The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychology tells about the real struggle of having divorced parents. “Children suffer for many years from psychological and social difficulties associated with continuing and/or new stresses within the post divorce family and experience heightened anxiety…”  The adults aren’t the only ones separating, the children in the relationship are struggling too with the loss of a stable home feeling.

Unless a couple split on good terms, which is usually rare, fighting heavily involves their child. Passing messages about each other through a child forces them to grow up quicker and forces them to face emotions they aren’t ready for. Personally, my parents have been divorced since I was two years old and I experienced the fighting, arguing and the negative talk about the other parent for the majority of my younger childhood, but I’m not alone in that struggle.

The upcoming generations of individuals looking to find a partner has changed from what it used to be. Millennials are looking deeper into people than they used to and finding what they really care about vs what others look like. Having a connection with someone doesn’t have to mean love, that’s a large issue with older generations. Those people weren’t waiting for a spark, they just felt comfort in a little connection.

As generations continue to emerge, people should stop looking for just anyone. Relationships based off of pure connection last longer than those subpar. Divorce can occur with those truly in love as well, but the individuals and children involved will be less likely to have to go through it if people were in love before just hopping in. Just loving someone may not be enough to keep a marriage strong. Being with your best friend, your other half, having a connection strong enough to get through anything is what marriage is really about.